I, along with others from our HSG Board and HUSD, have had two great opportunities this last month to learn more about our gifted children. For the next few months, I would like to take what I learned and share it with you.
This month I would like to introduce you to SENG: Supporting Emotional Needs of the Gifted. It is a group that was formed when a bright 16-year old boy took his own life in 1980. SENG strives to give parents of gifted children the opportunity to learn more about the emotional needs our children may have, as they are often quite intense–including as they become teenagers and hormones arrive. The group not only provides instruction for parents, but also a place to share and really ask the questions that apply to your individual family’s needs.
The questions I would like to ask you are these: What emotional patterns have occurred in your family growing up, as giftedness is often passed on genetically? How much are you aware of your child emotionally? Where are the resources you can turn to learn more? What if you feel like your child has no problems currently–should you still learn more? Of course your own answers will provide critical insights, as you know your situation better than anyone else, but I would also like to provide a few helps.
I recommend to every parent to read “A Parent’s Guide to Gifted Children”. This is a fantastic book that is thorough in discussing characteristics of gifted children, and providing possible solutions. Even SENG meetings are based off of this book. It will help you understand Dabrowski’s Overexcitabilities which can give insights into your current family and your family growing up; it will teach you about many characteristics and parenting approaches which will help you whether you feel your child needs help or not.
Other resources can include other parents, including our very own parent group, Higley Supporters of the Gifted. You can also keep an eye out for SENG trainings that occur in our area. The internet is a wonderful resource as well. If you click on “Other Sites”, a few good gifted sites are already listed for you. Also try www.hoagies.org.
Most importantly, just make yourself aware. While our children’s decisions are their own, we as their parents and other supporters need to help them sort out all the feelings that go on inside of them. They are at critical stages developmentally and need our help. Good luck, as always!
Debbie Niu
HSG President